Introduction

A men’s circle exists as a space of radical presence and deep inquiry. We come together to support and challenge each other to live from a place of inner truth and embodied autonomy - a grounded confidence that arises not from external validation, but from within.

As Rafia Morgan describes it:
“Autonomy is a better word than sovereignty... Not being bound by old concepts and beliefs that came from anything external to you, a self-realized place... where you have the possibility to respond to anything that comes from the outside. Becoming a detective of our own experience.”

In the face of challenge, fear, or failure - how do you show up? What drives your actions: truth, or conditioning? Can you remain open and present in the middle of chaos? Are you living your full truth and giving your deepest gift?

This circle is a crucible. You will be called to deconstruct your conditioned ego, explore the parts you hide, and come into greater alignment with your heart. We walk beside each other in this exploration, not to arrive somewhere, but to deepen - behaving like the elders we would have wished for.

Our journey follows three archetypal levels of inquiry, not as a hierarchy, but as parallel lenses:

Who am I? (Apprentice)

Who is the other? (Journeyman / Geselle)

Why am I here? (Master / Meister)

Container

We meet in a closed, bi-weekly container. This time and space is dedicated to radical presence and honest relating. While locations may vary, the intentionality of the circle remains constant.

Commitment

We strive to be trustworthy and reliable. That starts with honoring our commitment to this group.

Life can be unpredictable, and absences may occur due to work, sickness, or holidays. However, we choose to show up whenever possible—not just for ourselves, but for the group. This ongoing presence builds safety and trust.

Confidentiality

Strict confidentiality is a key principle in the Men’s Group. Participants are expected to refrain from sharing anything that might lead to the identification of others outside the group while discussing personal insights and experiences is fine. This container allows you to show up as who you truly are.

The strict rules around the container create the safety that is necessary for us to go deep and make this a transformational journey. The goal is to empower you to feel safe to share things you have never shared with anyone and feel held and seen safely by your men’s group brothers. Shame shared in a safe environment dies and liberates us!

Language

English, or if all participants are comfortable, Swiss German.

Communication

• We are here to witness each other, not to fix or advise.

• We aim for language that is clear, simple, and personal.

• Our communication is grounded in respect, presence, and consent.

• We support each other in becoming detectives of our own lives by staying curious, asking real questions, and avoiding abstractions.

Agreements

• Always speak from the “I”.

• Ask for consent before offering reflections, projections, or teachings.

• Empathic witnessing is often enough.

• No fixing. No saving.

• Use simple "cave human" language

• Let words breathe. No need to rush.

• Reflect through specific, personal questions

• Avoid generalizing or philosophizing

Program

• Physical warm-up

• Breathwork

• Thumbs check-in

• Prayer

• Short intro (facts only, no conclusions)

• Extract and define a mutual essence/theme of the group

• Free flow and “hot seat”

• Closing prayer

Topics

What is the essence of your story, which is always relatable.
Extract the universal essence of your experience (see below)
“We are not our stories”.
We welcome what arises naturally and remain open to what is alive in the group.

• Who am I? – Self-inquiry, authenticity, and personal development

• Primal topics – Conditioning from mother, father, and early life experiences

• Relationship / Intimacy – Love, connection, and honest relating

• Sexuality – Desire, shame, expression, masculine/feminine dynamics

• Parenting / Kids – Navigating fatherhood and generational legacy

• Work / Career – Purpose, pressure, ambition, fulfillment

• Health – Body, mind, and emotional well-being

• Life purpose / Analysis – Why am I here? What am I here to give?

• Pleasure – Joy, enjoyment, presence in the senses