Notes on relationships, desire and agreements
One question at a time.
01 · A note
An expectation can feel obvious from inside the person carrying it. From the outside, it may never have been spoken. “How could they have known?” is not a defence. It is a useful question. It separates the wish for someone to notice from an agreement both people actually made.
02 · A note
Desire carries other questions with it: Am I wanted? Can I say no? What does this mean tomorrow? Who gets to initiate? We do not need a universal answer. We may need to know which question is present for us.
03 · A note
A word can sound like an agreement while hiding several different meanings. Does it describe sex, dating, disclosure, future plans, or something else? The word matters less than what each person thinks it covers.